The concept of self can only be obtained through the presence of others. A person can only know themselves through others. If a person dislike the 'self' that they see from others they generates hate towards the people whom they see themselves from.
Through recognition a person finds their value. Recognition from others comes from their expectation of you. However you don't live to fulfill the expectation of others but for yourself.
How others react to your action will be the mirror for you to see yourself; and this goes on over and over, again and again.
